Why is it always much easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves?  It seems as if we punish ourselves for the simplest thing.  All the while forgiving others that have done much worse to us.  So how can we go about forgiving ourselves as easily as we forgive others?  In this article I will show you the three most effective ways to forgive yourself.  OK, lets dive in.

First, we need to accept within ourselves that we are not perfect and therefore are destined to screw up every now and again.  Not forgiving ourselves is thinking somehow that we are superior to everyone else.  I believe in having high standards, but arrogance and pride will destroy you.  Accepting responsibility is taking a naked look at ourselves, seeing the good, the bad and the ugly.  As uncomfortable as it may be, making mistakes today helps us to make better decisions tomorrow.     

Second, as you self forgive, you must accept total responsibility for what happened.  Mistakes happen, and when it happens to you, be open and honest about it.  Being responsible for what we do is a true sign of character.   Don’t run and hide when you make mistakes.  If you do, reconciliation may never occur.   Instead, talk with the parties affected to see if peace and trust can be restored.  Don’t be afraid.  Doing the right thing when it is uncomfortable builds confidence and inner strength within us.

And lastly, we must learn from the incident and don’t repeat it.  I know it may be painful.  I know it may have caused many sleepless nights.  But if you will learn from those mistakes, you turn your negative into a positive.  We must not allow making mistakes to condemn us.  Assess yourself, really be honest.  If you had the opportunity to relive the incident, would you change anything? 

If you are truly sorry and would not do it again, not forgiving yourself is condemning an innocent man. 

Making mistakes can make you feel unworthy of forgiveness.  Being mindful to exercise the steps above can eliminate those feelings.  In order to be as successful as you would like to be, you must be willing to forgive those who have done you wrong.  And even though it’s more difficult to forgive ourselves, we must do so to have the happy, joyful life that we all desire.

Thank you for reading this article.  I hope you now have a few new ideas to help you fight against unforgiveness.  If this article has helped you in any way, please visit my blog and leave a comment.

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