Have you ever wondered why some people just have it all? They’re well liked by everyone they meet, financially set and attractive…but what stands out most is their beaming sense of self-confidence when they enter a room.

It’s almost as if they have a certain “presence” that gives off positive vibes.

Not everyone is this fortunate, however. There are people who are faced with low self worth, they struggle to maintain positive relationships and often feel resentful towards people who are better off than they are.

So what’s the difference? How can one person be so incredibly successful while another person constantly struggles just to get by?

The answer lies in what I call your “Invisible Lifestyle.” Your Invisible Lifestyle is what made you into the person you are today. You were literally “programmed” with the habits and beliefs that you follow today (or refuse to follow).

So who were the programmers?

Look no further than your very own parents or guardians.

It’s true. Your parents unknowingly “programmed” you to become the person you are today. The reason I say ‘unknowingly’ is because your parents raised you the best they could based on how their parents raised THEM.

Because of the “brain wiring” of your original programmers (your parents), as an adult, you are duplicating the way they lived when you were young.

For example, let’s say you were raised in a household where both of your parents were always there for you. They took an interest and encouraged you in everything you pursued.

You grew up seeing your parents work hard every day, take interest in you and treat each other with respect. As a result, you grew up to have a successful career and a happy marriage because you worked hard and treated your spouse with respect…just like your parents.

Now let’s look at another scenario…

Imagine a life where you grew up in a neglectful household. Your parents never encouraged you or took an interest in anything you did…EVER.

Your father had a negative outlook on life because of HIS traumatic childhood so all he knew how to do was raise YOU the same way that his father raised HIM.

As a result, you grew up with a negative outlook on life (just like your dad), and you have low self esteem because nobody took the time to encourage you and take an interest in you as a child.

Is this YOUR fault? NO! Of course not!

You did not ask to be “dropped” into your parents’ household. That is the “hand” you were dealt in life and now, as an adult, you’re living out the consequences.

In these two scenarios, you’re living out what I call “Invisible Lifestyle A”.

A stands for “ALWAYS”

“What you didn’t notice your parents doing as a child, you are faithfully reproducing today, and you don’t have a clue you’re doing it.”

But there IS one exception to this phenomenon…

Let’s say you grew up in a bad neighborhood with an alcoholic father. Everywhere you looked, you saw poverty, crime and hopelessness. As a child, you couldn’t wait to move out of the house. You saw your parents’ lifestyle and were DETERMINED to not only be successful, but be NOTHING LIKE YOUR PARENTS.

While you were growing up, you took the necessary steps to put yourself through school and as an adult; you have a positive self image and do everything within your power to remain financially stable.

This is known as Invisible Lifestyle B.
B stands for “BUCKING”

“What you couldn’t stand your parents doing when you grew up; you won’t stand for in your relationships today.”

Those who embrace the “B” Lifestyle, do so in defiance of their family’s values. The B Lifestyle can create the “black sheep of the family” and that goes for highly troubled families or very successful ones.

Invisible Lifestyle B has taken place when an inner city boy or girl goes on to pursue a successful career as a lawyer while each of their siblings end up in jail. On the other hand, a child from a wealthy family could go against his parents’ values by recklessly spending and eventually filing for bankruptcy as an adult.

Now I’m not telling you to place BLAME on your parents. Your parents raised you based on everything they knew at the time. It’s ALL they knew. It’s not their fault…it’s NOBODY’S “FAULT”.

The key is to understand and accept the fact that the negative values you absorbed from your parents (i.e., fear of failure, low self worth, jealousy) are programs literally “wired” into your brain.

And if you have enough discontent with these, it is very possible to change that programming in your adult life.

But simply knowing this is not enough.

You must find these programs and learn how to “decommission” them. In other words, you need to know what to do and how to do it, especially if these programs seem to dictate your behavior.

Do you do things over and over that other people might call “self sabotage”?

Are you attracted to a certain type of person you know you shouldn’t be around, yet you can’t help but feel attracted to?

The source of this behavior is one or two negative programs from your childhood.

These programs will prevent you (or your loved ones) from a better life.

If your parents’ programmed you with some negative values that are causing you problems in your life today…it’s NOT your fault…but it IS your responsibility to do something about it.

You can start by thinking about how each situation in your life today is directly affected by your Invisible Lifestyle.

The more you discuss your childhood memories of the way things were, the more you become consciously aware of them and the easier they will be to “decommission”.

Over an entire lifetime, most people will not make the connection between their behavior as an adult and how their parents lived during their childhood.

They will accept their parent’s values without questioning anything, never knowing the REAL reason they continue to make the same mistakes over and over again.

But now YOU know better than that. Don’t live your life with a blindfold on. Create a better future by first identifying and then eliminating the values from your parents that are causing you trouble today.

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I recently had a conversation with one of my former students. She has been out of school for a few years now but isn’t satisfied with the direction her career has taken. In fact, she’s not too happy with her personal life either. Her voice developed more than a touch of whine as she said: “I don’t know what to do.”

So I asked her about her goals. Her response was a rather slack-jawed look of surprise. “Goals?” Well at least she wasn’t whining anymore.

I asked her what she would like to see her career in a few years. I asked her where she’d like to see her life in a few years. She knew the answers to those questions and quickly became animated as she discussed her desire to start her own business. We talked about what she would need to accomplish her goal and what she would have to change.

When we parted ways she felt a lot better about her job because she knew that she wasn’t trapped in it. She was taking a necessary step to prepare herself for a long-term goal. She had her eye on the prize and that focus energized her.

That is the power of goals. What are your goals? There are seven reasons why you need to have goals.

~ To give direction to life
~ To make sure we are the one choosing the direction of our life — not others, not fate, not the media, etc.
~ To motivate
~ To make sure we get what we want from life
~ To save time
~ To reduce stress
~ To give a sense of accomplishment

While it can be fun to live without direction in the short-term, in the long-term human beings are wired to need a purpose and direction. Goals give a sense of direction and purpose to life.

It is often easy to let others set our direction for us. We take a job because family or friends point us in that direction and then we follow the dictates of our bosses. We move in other directions because popular culture or the media tells us to do so. The simple truth is that if we do not set our own goals then we will find it too easy to follow a path set by others. This can lead to stress and unhappiness. We have a greater chance of happiness and fulfillment following our own path and pursuing our own goals.

While goals certainly give our lives direction, they also provide the motivation to get us through difficult times and choices. Perhaps going to college at night while working full-time may be stressful and difficult in the short-term, but in the long run being able to pursue the professional goals we desire will make it worthwhile.

Goals also serve as the destination for what we really want out of life. For some people, goals are measured in money or material goods, while for others goals are measured in time or freedom. If we do not have goals outlined that suit our unique perspective on life it is easy to become sidetracked by life and others.

Goals can also help save time. When your “To Do” list becomes too long and your calendar too full, then you can simply compare your goals to the list. What items help you achieve your goal? What items are necessary to your goal? Scratch off the rest as unimportant.

Just as goals save time they also reduce stress because using your goals to focus your life and choices makes it easier to make those choices. Should you take that new position at work? How does it match your goals?

Finally, goals give you a measurable sense of accomplishment. Every goal you achieve, in fact every step you make toward that goal, can give you a boost of energy and momentum to keep going. Each success powers you toward the next level of success.

Now go out and set your goals!

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Weight Motivation

Proper weight motivation can be the difference between success and failure to your weight loss goals.  It should be noted that the key to a successful exercise program is perseverance. This means that you need to commit to it for the long haul—in fact, it is best if you commit to it for the rest of your life. Certainly, it can be difficult at times. But in the end, it is well worth the effort you exert.

Staying motivated may begin with having a tangible goal. For instance, if you are basically inactive when you start your program, you should aim to burn off 500 calories a week. If you are fairly active when you start exercising, your goal should be 1,000 calories. But you must also have a long-term goal. This might be doubling the amount of calories you burn within six months of commencing your exercise program.

You might consider starting an exercise log. Here, you will record exactly what kind of aerobic, anaerobic, and stretching exercises you do each week. Be sure to include the number of repetitions you’re performing with each exercise. This way, you’ll have a concrete chart for your progress. Seeing how well you’re doing can be truly inspiring and can keep you going when you find it difficult to go on.

Another effective weight motivational strategy is to join a group that engages in some kind of exercise. For instance, you might become a mall-walker or you might find a local square dance club to join. Other possibilities include hiking groups, golfing groups, softball teams, or even ping-pong teams. The fact that you are part of a social network will help to keep you motivated.

You might try psyching yourself out by using a computer screensaver which says, “Get moving.” Or you might post a “get moving” sign on your refrigerator. In other words, you should be constantly reminded of the value of exercise. You might also invest in home exercise equipment such as a treadmill, elliptical trainer, or free weights. The amount of money you spend could be a powerful incentive for making sure that you use the equipment on a regular basis. You should also place the equipment in a prominent place so that you have to pass it often. After a while, you’ll find no excuse not to exercise.

You might also consider investing in exercise videos or DVDs. These allow you the convenience of exercising in the privacy of your own home. They can also give you an electronic “exercise buddy” who can help keep you inspired even on rainy days when you don’t feel like exercising at all.

Another effective idea is to place your athletic shoes near the door so that you are reminded of the need to walk rather than drive. You might also consider rewarding yourself for keeping with your exercise program. Your reward could be as elaborate as a cruise or as small as a treat from the dollar store. The idea is to make sure that your accomplishment is celebrated.

While we’re on the topic of celebration, seriously consider throwing a party once you’ve reached an exercise milestone. You can serve nutritious snacks and beverages and even encourage your guests to come in their athletic wear in order to build upon the party’s theme. Sharing your joy can help to motivate you to continue your physical activities.

It should be said that there is no right way to exercise. But you do need to make sure that whatever you do is effective and that you’re sufficiently motivated to do it. By following just a few simple tips, you can ensure that your exercise routine is not just a fad, that it will continue over the long term. Remember that you may face setbacks from time to time, but that shouldn’t stop you from continuing to try to reach your exercise goals.  Just keep in mind that the goal of weight motivation is to cause a permanent healthy lifestyle with natural weight loss.

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Pursue your dreams at all cost.  I am reminded of Will Smith in The Pursuit of Happyness. When he realized he had discouraged his son’s dream, he encouraged his son by telling him to protect any dream he had and not to allow anyone to steal it. I think that message is crucial for us today as well. With the state of the economy, uncertainty is more certain than anything else. We all need the confidence that a better tomorrow is possible.

So what’s your dream? We all have one. What is the one thing or maybe a few things you would love to do? For me, my dream is to be a #1 New York Times bestselling author. My dream is to create training materials for prisoners, young men in juvenile facilities and inmates recently released from prison. My dream is to make a difference in the lives of others. My dream, like Les Brown says it, is to make a statement with my life.

I realize how easy it is to read something inspiring and fail to take the necessary action that will lead change. I want you to do something for yourself. Take out a sheet of paper and write down (ONE) thing you would like to achieve or accomplish this month.

It’s sometimes difficult to dream big when the pressures of life are weighing on us. That’s why I want you to choose one small goal you can work on everyday. Choose something that will propel you forward due to it’s importance to you.  I am here to validate within you that any goal of any size is totally possible for you to achieve.

Breaking down huge goals into bite sized steps is the quickest way to build your self confidence while  moving closer to your dreams.

As you pursue your dreams, just know that I believe in you and your success.

Pursue your dreams and don’t allow anyone to steal your dream.

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I know, I know, it’s no surprise that I’m posting another Les brown video.  I am extremely fond of Mr. Brown for the power of his messages and the value he delivers to other people’s lives.  He offers real live examples from his own life.  He shows that he’s just a regular guy who had a dream and the passion and confidence to turn that dream into reality.  This message will motivate, inspire and challenge you to become your personal best.  I hope you feel the same way after viewing it.  Also, feel free to leave a comment and post to Twitter and Facebook after viewing.  Without further adieu, here’s Les:

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Be Honest With Yourself

The first key to changing or improving any area of your life is to totally assess where you are now. There of areas that we all need to improve on. For some, it’s weight control. For others it’s needing to land a better job. Honesty where you are will allow you to create a plan of growth. If you are not honest about who you are and where you are, any type of striving for self improvement will not be long lasting.

Fulfill Your Heart’s Desire

How long it has been since you last did something that you really liked, something that you enjoyed doing as a child? How long has it been since you went out for ice cream with a friend? These simple things have the power to build your self-confidence and add fulfillment to your life. Life can be very quite simple. It is easy to get caught u in the rat race of today’s world, and lose yourself in the process. It is easy to forget your purpose, what you like and what you enjoy doing. It happens to people all of the time. It is your responsibility to yourself that you get back to those simple things in life.

Find a group of friends

You’ve heard the saying, “birds of a feather flock together”. It is important to find people with whom you enjoy spending time and doing things. You will find that life is a little bit easier when you are among the people who share your interests and your feelings. There is an understanding between you, as well as an open dialogue. Good conversation and friendship are healthy and important for our minds and souls.

Set goals and just do it!

Take one step at a time. Those single steps will develop into a giant gait over time. Do not overwhelm yourself, but simply do the task at hand. But set achievable goals and go for them! Don’t focus on the big picture, concentrate on the small steps. This is the only way to accomplish anything, and to avoid procrastination and depression. Even the smallest achievement will give you a sense of accomplishment that will boost your self-confidence.

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In this video, art encourages us to take total responsibility for our success.  This short video clip shows his perspective of winner and losers and what it takes to be a winner.  I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

Art Williams Do It Speech Part One

Art Williams Do It Speech Part Two

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Your Brain is a wonderful piece of craftsmanship. It has the ability to process and store information that couldn’t possibly be contested by even the most advanced computers, now or in the future. It’s so advanced, it seems, that it needs no real help from “You” to operate your life. It issues reactions to your environment by reaching into its vast memory, going through all kinds of calculations, and producing the best action.

So how does your brain conclude the best action? Well, generally, that is a result of the experiences you have had up until the moment of the decision. You see, the brain kicks into gear when you are born. It’s Grand Purpose…Self Preservation. It needs to keep you alive. To do that, it must make sure that you are equipped to handle the world around you. It takes in everything and tries to breakdown all it stores into categories and groups. Good, Bad, Likes, Dislikes. Basically, it creates boxes and labels them; then organizes events, circumstances, objects into these boxes. It also has reactive behaviors stored in connection with these boxes.

As these boxes and their contents increase, we have more and more defined reactions to life. Long after the incidents that cause the addition of objects to boxes, the references remain. Result – our attitudes towards certain things are formed. We don’t truly remember why, whether the reason is valid or not. We just accept that “I like that person” or “This makes me uneasy”. Or course there are loads of situations that we react to, based on intuition etc. The point is that there are also loads that we have no input whatsoever into how the brain has chosen its reaction, at least not anymore.

Soon, these boxes start to determine your state of mind. You are no longer in control. Your brain has it filed away somewhere that since your football coach thinks you suck, the greatest possibility is that you do suck. More importantly, this situation is in the “Sad Things” box. And this box has certain reactions linked with it…inadequacy, sadness, depression, anger (No doubt, because the same situation crosses into the “Angry Things” box somewhere along the line). So, surprise, surprise, you are sad! And if it rains or is cloudy…that’s another item for the “Sad Things” box to accentuate the situation. It’s not really your fault you see. It’s the box!

The Brain has taken over. Most of us are on Auto-Pilot. You have to take control back. You need to be there to catch that pre-defined action that the brain throws out at you. You can then choose not to react accordingly. Those boxes have to be purposefully emptied so you can start to see things anew again.

This is a tough task. You have been this way all your life. In trying, you will meet with fierce opposition from your mind. You cannot win this battle my friend. You can, however, see the actions the brain presents in a different light. These actions are simply recommendations. More and more you can catch yourself react to things that happen around you. As you become more “aware”, you stop yourself from proceeding with the directed action, and “respond” in your chosen way. This is how you can start to deprogramming your mind for success.

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Our mind can either be our best friend or our worst enemy depending on what you feed it.  You wouldn’t believe how much trash we feed our mind every day!  Why don’t we give our mind positive bursts of input? We can easily.  Affirmations are defined as the assertion that something exists or is true. That being said, positive affirmations are basically when we assert that something positive about ourselves or anything else is true. This activity in turn, yields positive results as our inner world reflects our outer world.

Many of us have a hard time feeding ourselves positive affirmations. And for those who can, we sometimes can run into a “blockage” from our conscious mind. Our conscious mind sometimes tends to question our beliefs to the point that we can become discouraged.

The sub-conscious mind accepts commands without questioning them.  So it is imperative that you feed it positive affirmations. Well, imagine if you could feed your sub-conscious positive affirmations while performing your daily activities on your computer. Through the affirmation-delivering engine and the silent subliminal messaging center, that is exactly what the MindZoom software can and will do for you:

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The Affirmation Delivering Engine conveys thousands of positive commands at speeds that bypass your conscious mind and sends them directly to your sub-conscious, SAFELY AND DISCRETELY.

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This incredible software can and will enhance your life by allowing you to:

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As you know, this site is dedicated to helping you change what and how you (myself included) think so that success however we define it can easily be attracted to us.  I like and appreciate this video because after watching this video, it is no surprise that Will is as successful as he is.  So, enjoy this video.  It is well worth your time.

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Is success really as easy as making a decision?  Well, yes and no.  Yes as it relates to being crystal clear what you want and what it will take to get there.  No as it relates to the ease or difficulty it will take to achieve it.  In this life, there is no something for nothing.  Whatever you want, you must pay a price to achieve it.  Making a decision is like the rudder on a ship that takes you to your destination.

Success always seems possible as we approach a new year.  There are so many things we’d like to do that we quickly get overwhelmed and most of us end up doing very little as a result.  Don’t fall into that trap.  Decide today what you want and why it’s important for you to achieve it.

Keep in mind there are no right or wrong answers.  Follow your heart.  Take a moment to think of a goal that was impossible.  For me, I think back to the Wright Brothers.  Flying an airplane was so far out of the scope of reality I can only imagine the ridicule they had to overcome.

To give you a start, answer the following questions:

1) If it were already a year from now, what achievements would I like to have accomplished?

2) If I had all the time I needed to devote to a project, what would I undertake?

3) If money were no object, what would I pursue?

Spend some time answering these questions and you should have a clear idea of what few things you’d like to focus on.  In order to make this your best year ever, you must be crystal clear what you want, why you want it and what are the best ways to achieve it.

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A lot of people are guilty of waiting until the last minute to do something vital. Some people say that they really have a lot of work to start with, and some things simply have to wait on the back burner and thus end up being done at the last minute. Other people say that they like the energy of the last minute working schedule, where they are driven nearly entirely by adrenalin.

Still, other people use the excuse of procrastination to look like they are working hard on something, when all that they have done is to wait until the last minute in order to look like they really have a lot to work with, when they could have done things small by small every day and still met the deadline without going through the stress.In any case, procrastination is hard to deal with, and if you get used to it, it can be a hard habit to get rid of, much less deal with. In fact, procrastination in school can only be the terrible beginning to a clumsy career, and if you procrastinate all your life, you may as well place yourself in the hospital or the stress will mess with you and your family. On the other hand, if you want to help someone do better and get themselves out of the procrastination habit, then you can use the following tips to motivate them to get off their bottoms and start working:

- Don’t be self-righteous. You were a procrastinator, too, and you may have fallen into the Last Minute Trap at one time or another. The key to motivating anyone is to show them that they can get out of the habit because someone has done it before. Talk to them about your own experiences.

You can compare your work quality between something that you did when you were near a deadline and something that you did small by small and passed on time without worrying whether you would really turn up alive at passing time. You can also compare what the last minute work did to your health, and how you were able to get yourself to do better.

- Set a excellent example. It will not do your apprentice any excellent if you as the master are as terrible a procrastinator, or even worse. You cannot motivate someone to change if you do not show them how, so be prepared to show your stuff as you meet your own deadlines.

- Be open to questions. A procrastinator can be willing to change, and you may have some advice to offer.

- Offer the person rewards for a deadline well met, say a few days before. If this person is your child or sibling, you can offer money or a treat at a nearby restaurant as a reward. If this person is your co-worker or classmate, then treat yourselves to a movie or a game night if you are able to meet your deadlines well.

- The opposite works, too: if you are not able to procrastinate, find a way to slightly punish yourselves, say by cleaning your house or apartment, not going out for a few rounds of beer, or not spending over $5 for your dinner out.

- Encourage the person to set their own deadlines. Having a deadline days or weeks before the real deadline can make them more motivated since they’re breaking their own records!

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Thank you for visiting and please leave a comment so I can know what you think of the video.  I absolutely live the powerful, positive messages from Les Brown.  He motivates and inspires me like no other.  I appreciate him because just like me, he had to overcome many challenges to reach the pinnacle of his success.  Les comes from the perspective that if ANYONE has been successful doing what you want to do, you can be successful as well. 

I believe that’s something we need to be reminded of.  Too often we allow circumstances dictate our mood, behavior and even expectations.  We must become aware of the power we possess and intentionally create the lives we desire. 

Here are two powerful videos that will help you do just that.

Les Brown – Live Full, Die Empty

It’s Not Over ’til I Win

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Do you want to put a smile on someone’s face? Maybe make their day a little bit brighter? It doesn’t have to take much time or money on your part. In fact, many things can be done as a part of your normal routine and cost little or nothing. You won’t know how many people are encouraged by your kindness because smiles are contagious. Try out one or more of these 7 ways today to brighten someone’s day.

1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!

2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.

3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.

4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of “adult time” without worrying about the children. Don’t wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.

5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.

6. Volunteer time to supporting your local church or charity. Every minute you dedicate to a church or charity will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.

7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants.

I know this is a list of 7 ways to put a smile on someone’s face, but there is one more way that can’t be ignored. Reveal a genuine smile to everyone you meet. You will experience how easy it is to get others to smile!

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I came across this incredible video.  It shows how a young man pushed past all of his limitatations and surprised himself concerning what was possible for him to succeed.  I know you will enjoy it as well.

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I’m not even going to ask you if you have a dream because the the people I attract are dreamers.  The people I attract are big thinkers who want more out of life.  So now I want you to answer a very serious question: Do you have faith in your dream?  Do you have the faith and confidence necessary to take the action needed to make your dream a reality?  I applaud you for having a dream, but a dream without faith is powerless.  I want you to put the power back into your dream.

I don’t know how big your dream is, but I do know that the size of the dream doesn’t matter.  All that matters is the size of your desire to achieve your dream.  How much time do you spend each day thinking about your dream?  How much time do you spend working on your dream?  These questions are very important because as you give thought to an idea, you will have additional ideas that will show up. 

Even if you have a BIG dream, do this simple exercise.  For the next thirty days, invest 10-20 minutes a day thinking about your dream and the possible ways you may be able to achieve it.  I want you to buy a notebook especially for this.  Name the notebook, “My Dream Book.”  Sit in a quiet place and write every idea you receive.  Don’t judge an idea; just write it down.  Now if you are faithful to do this exercise, at the end of thirty days, you should have an abundance of ideas to get you started. 

I applaud you for your dream.  Just keep in mind that many people who have dreams will never have the confidence to develop the idea into something real.  The world needs your ideas.  There are gifts and talents within you that the rest of us desperately need.  Please don’t deprive us of your special talent, gift or idea.  Complete the thirty day brainstorming exercise and you will be amazed at how many wonderful ideas you have to develop.

You can do it.  I’m counting on you.  The world is counting on you.

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Affirmations are still not as widely valued and believed as they should be.  It seems as if people either love or hate them.  But do affirmations really work?  Are the critics right?  Personally I believe in affirmations and the underlying power they contain.  A statement that you repeat over and over you eventually believe as fact.  Whether it’s a positive or negative statement, you will believe it about yourself if you say it enough times.  That’s why you must be careful of what you think and the things you speak.  You are speaking your future with every word you say.

I would like you to put affirmations into action in your life.  Prove to yourself that they do, in fact, work.  However,  as you experiment with this, I want you to be totally convinced that this works. 

Decide a negative or unsupportive thought that needs to be replaced.  Next, come up with an affirmation that perfectly replaces the negative thought.  If you need help, visit my sample affirmations section.  Decide upon a simple yet meaningful statement that you can purposefully use to change limiting belies. 

Next I want you to make a commitment to yourself that you will not stop until that old belief or thought has been replaced.  What you will find is that as you begin, the act of repeating your affirmations with power, feeling and conviction will bring a strength and mental focus to your mind like you’ve never experienced before.  Daily affirmations will get your day started with purpose and passion. 

Affirmations only work when you work them.  If you work them, they will work for you.

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I want to talk to you today about the most important aspect of your success. Yep, I’m talking about belief in yourself and your abilities to produce the results you greatly desire. So why is belief so important? Belief is essential because without it, you are paralyzed, not being able to move forward. Without belief, your goals and desires are forced to remain within you, never getting the opportunity to express themselves outwardly. I want to share some ideas I have that can help you increase your current level of belief in yourself.

Read, Listen or Watch Inspirational Messages

I love inspirational messages.  One reason why I am able to share these ideas with you is because I’ve done it myself.  It’s really easy to do.  If you are new to self improvement and personal development, visit your local library and check out the self improvement section.  You will find authors like Brian Tracy, Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen (Chicken Soup For The Soul), Les Brown and many others.  Skim over the pages of a certain book to see if what the author is saying resonates  with you.  If you like the author’s style, check out the book and also see if they have an audio version of the book.  You can’t read a book on the drive to work, but you sure can listen to a CD, can’t you?

Volunteer For A Local Charity

Volunteering is the greatest demonstration of love that you can express to others.  Sharing of your time, knowledge and experience with others gives you a humble pride that makes you feel incredibly good.  Also, as time goes on and you develop more of a proficiency in that area, the people around you will look up to you because of your expertise.

Reconsider Your Relationships

The people who we are around the most have the most influence in our lives.  Are the people around you helping you to achieve greatness or are they content to see you as you are?   Do they encourage you to do bigger and better things or do they discourage you from thinking big and breaking away from the pack?  If you made radical changes in your life and became super successful, how would those friends look at you?  Would they be happy you made progress in life or would they say that you sold out?

My best suggestion for increasing belief in yourself is for you to examine your desires and goals.  Why is it important to you that you achieve them?  Create a list of 50 benefits to be gained if you achieve your desired outcome.  What pain is associated with not following through?  How has your lack of belief benefited you?  Are you a better person now as a result?  If you don’t deal with that unbelief now, what will it cost you in the future.  I want to share a powerful quote with you.  It’s from Wade Cook.  Wade said:

“If the next five years are like the last five years, where will you be in five years?”

And this is a question we must ask and answer to ourselves.  If this lack of belief has taken so much from us, why do we continue to keep it around.  This lack of belief only takes from us, it never gives and enriches our lives.  Decide right here and now that you will confront the cause of fear and unbelief, and deal with it once and for all.

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In this tough economy it may be difficult to hope for a brighter future. With layoffs and employers closing up shop, it’s hard to believe in a brighter day. When things seem the bleakest, we must remain strong. We must believe that a brighter day is coming. We must believe that it’s possible to find the opportunity hidden in this epidemic. Learning how to gain more confidence so we can take advantage of opportunities is possible for us.

Confidence means that you believe that a certain thing is true. The great thing about confidence is that if you don’t have it, you can get it. And if you don’t have enough of it, more confidence is available to you as well.

Auto Suggestion is the most basic way to gain more self confidence. Auto Suggestion is a statement that you would like to believe as fact in your life. An example would be: 

• I am confident when interacting with new people
• I am confident when interacting with the opposite sex
• I am confident when standing up for what’s right
• I am confident speaking in front of others
• I have confidence that as I take action, I will get bigger and bigger rewards
• I am confident that I can overcome this addiction
• I believe that I can get that promotion at work
• I believe that I can easily love this weight
• I believe that I CAN get my marriage back together
• I believe I CAN get my book published
• I believe I can win

Saying powerful declarative statements like this isn’t hokey. Your words have transformational power to change situations and circumstances in your life. Take a few minutes right now to develop your list of declarative statements. Decide right now to read those statements every day.   Constantly remind yourself where you are going and what things you will no longer settle for. As you become serious about this exercise, you will begin to see the results you have been speaking.

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When you’re feeling down, what specific things do you do to get inspired to move forward with power? Is there a process you go through to gain your confidence? This article on confidence boosters will give you some simple exercises to use to increase your confidence quickly. Here are several that I use and teach daily.

Learning Something New

When you learn a new skill, develop a new hobby, or to anything to expand your mind with new knowledge, those activities produce confidence. A friend of mine used to work a sales job. To be honest, he was about the worst salesman in the company and was on my way to termination. He bought a couple of sales books and CD’s and devoured the information. His new found knowledge gave him the necessary skills and confidence to begin to make sales on his job.

Relive Your Past Success

Reminding yourself of your many accomplishments is just about the easiest way to boost your confidence. We have all done great things. The problem is that the bar that we set for our accomplishments are so high, it doesn’t seem like we’ve succeeded at anything. On you path to your goals, what action steps have you completed? Even the smallest action step is a victory. Am I right? Use any ammunition on yourself that you can. Whatever it takes to quickly boost your confidence, use it.

Focus On Your Hero’s

Look at the lives of the great men and women that you respect and admire. What qualities do you both share? While thinking of your hero, make a list of 100 top qualities you possess.

Offer To Help Others

I was on the phone with a friend yesterday. He works a job he hates and is neither fulfilled or making enough money. While we spoke, I took him around to several of the sites I use to generate income for myself. After twenty or thirty minutes on the phone, my friend Lionel was looking at me as if I were some great marketing God.  Sharing your knowledge to help others is a wonderful confidence booster.

For Additional Resources That Can Boost Your Confidence Please Consider The Following :

Brian Tracy shows you how to: control your confidence level by controlling your thoughts … stop self-defeating behaviors and begin self-confident ones … see yourself as others see you and easily change their perceptions.

In this mix of live and studio recordings, Jack Canfield will help you feel more love and contentment than you ever have before, just as he’s helped thousands of people create more positive relationships with themselves and others. Jack is an internationally known expert in the areas of self-esteem, peak performance and the psychology of achievement. He is the founder and co-creator of the amazing New York Times #1 Best-Selling Chicken Soup for the Soul® book series.

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Why is it always much easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves?  It seems as if we punish ourselves for the simplest thing.  All the while forgiving others that have done much worse to us.  So how can we go about forgiving ourselves as easily as we forgive others?  In this article I will show you the three most effective ways to forgive yourself.  OK, lets dive in.

First, we need to accept within ourselves that we are not perfect and therefore are destined to screw up every now and again.  Not forgiving ourselves is thinking somehow that we are superior to everyone else.  I believe in having high standards, but arrogance and pride will destroy you.  Accepting responsibility is taking a naked look at ourselves, seeing the good, the bad and the ugly.  As uncomfortable as it may be, making mistakes today helps us to make better decisions tomorrow.     

Second, as you self forgive, you must accept total responsibility for what happened.  Mistakes happen, and when it happens to you, be open and honest about it.  Being responsible for what we do is a true sign of character.   Don’t run and hide when you make mistakes.  If you do, reconciliation may never occur.   Instead, talk with the parties affected to see if peace and trust can be restored.  Don’t be afraid.  Doing the right thing when it is uncomfortable builds confidence and inner strength within us.

And lastly, we must learn from the incident and don’t repeat it.  I know it may be painful.  I know it may have caused many sleepless nights.  But if you will learn from those mistakes, you turn your negative into a positive.  We must not allow making mistakes to condemn us.  Assess yourself, really be honest.  If you had the opportunity to relive the incident, would you change anything? 

If you are truly sorry and would not do it again, not forgiving yourself is condemning an innocent man. 

Making mistakes can make you feel unworthy of forgiveness.  Being mindful to exercise the steps above can eliminate those feelings.  In order to be as successful as you would like to be, you must be willing to forgive those who have done you wrong.  And even though it’s more difficult to forgive ourselves, we must do so to have the happy, joyful life that we all desire.

Thank you for reading this article.  I hope you now have a few new ideas to help you fight against unforgiveness.  If this article has helped you in any way, please visit my blog and leave a comment.

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Life coaching has become really popular within the last few years. The desire of most people is to be more effective in their work, do work that they really enjoy, end procrastination once and for all in their lives, et cetera.  Having a life coach is an excellent way to accomplish all of the above.  I wrote this article to convince you that getting a personal life coach is above and beyond one of the best investments you can make for your life. 

I know what it’s like to be full of potential but have no results.  I know how it feels to have your mind scattered with fifty great ideas and you want to implement them all today.  I know how it feels to be stuck, not knowing what next move to take.  Things were so bad for me that I had become discouraged, not pursuing my dreams at all.  Yep, I was there. 

It wasn’t until I got a coach that things started to change in my life.  I thought I was ok; but I needed a whole lot of help.  These are just ten things I’ve learned about the importance of getting a personal coach.

1.   Coaches help you develop the best plan based on where you are today. 

2.   Coaches are your support system.  Unlike other people in your life, your coach celebrates your success with you.

3.   Coaches hold you accountable.  They are not your friends who will easily pardon you for watching Law & Order when you were supposed to be doing something else.  Your coach is not interested in Law & Order.  They want to know if you are making progress or standing still.

4.   Coaches see flaws within ourselves that we don’t see.   I know, so does your spouse.  But sometimes it’s easier to hear the same thing from an impartial third party.  Your wife wants to fix you.  Your coach wants to help you succeed.

5.   Coaches are a listening ear.  There are times you can’t consult with coworkers, friends or even your spouse because they don’t know what you’re going through.  Your coach may be able to relate with you when others don’t.

6.   Coaches help you to think bigger and accomplish more.  A good coach will help you to enlarge your vision. 

7.   Coaches help you think differently about ourselves.  Most times, we play it safe, trying to achieve small goals within our comfort zone.  The true essence of goal setting is that to get the goal, you must become a different person.  The coaching process helps you see yourself differently.

8.   Coaches are your cheerleaders.  They are behind you cheering and reassuring you to keep going.  They help you make it through obstacles while keeping a positive attitude.

9.   Coaches can coach you through very specific challenges.  There are different kinds of coaching for different kinds of situations.  Such as: divorce recovery coaching, domestic violence recovery coaching, grief coaching, personal success coaching, and a lot more.

10.                Coaches are your employees.  Their job is to help you succeed.  As an employee, the value of their work is determined by the success they help you achieve. 

Having a life coach can make the difference between a quick success and a slow road leading nowhere.  As a life coach myself, I would hate for you to be on a road leading nowhere.  Whether it’s me or someone else, do yourself a favor and hire a coach as soon as you can.

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It seems as if everyone is talking about affirmations.  Affirmations, getting your subconscious mind to accept certain things as fact.  There is only one reason why the talk of affirmations have become so popular: They Work!!!  If you are new to writing affirmations, you may need help getting started.  I wrote this article, “Examples of Affirmations” to assist the new comer as he/ she embark upon this creative and freeing adventure.

I teach all of my students that the perfect affirmation is one that directly relates to a specific goal.  I don’t know what your goals are, but use the following as a guide to direct you.

I am happy

I am happily achieving my 130 pound ideal weight

I am happily earning over $100,000 a year

I am happy and healthy

I am the new owner of Acme Beverage Company

I easily and quickly excel at everything I do

I am excited about getting that new promotion

I am passionately pursuing my purpose

I can do it

I love being generous to others

I am getting a ton of pleasure by helping others

I am easily doing 200 push up a day

I am happily eating healthy meals

I am a great friend to others

I am a great boss to my employees

I am a loving husband to my wife

I am a caring and supportive wife to my husband

I am happily enjoying the company of my in laws

I am finally 180 pounds

I am creatively selling 100,000 copies of my new book

I am powerfully resisting this sickness

I am successfully starting my radio show

I am confident

I am a winner

I am a loving brother to my siblings

I enjoy showing my parents I love them

I love teaching

I deeply enjoy speaking in front of an audience 

I am happily sharing my knowledge with others

I am driving a brand new fully loaded white Cadillac CTS

I am living in my dream home of the coast of Miami

I love how this Rolex feels on my wrist

I am grateful to have three pairs of new shoes

I am loving my wife and making her my #1

I am my son’s hero

I am the cool dad

Learning to write personal affirmations is not a gift.  It is something that can be mastered within a very short period of time.   

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Famous success quotes can inspire and motivate us when we’re not feeling very strong.  One of my favorites is from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.  Dr King said “Faith is taking the first step, even when you don’t see the whole staircase.”  That quote reminds me not to focus on everything being right in order to take action. In this article I will share with you several other quotes that I live by.

Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown.  H. Ross Perot

Ask not what your teammates can do for you. Ask what you can do for your teammates.  Magic Johnson

You must trade in who you’ve been for who you must become.   Les Brown

You deserve to have your life exactly the way you want it .   Jack Canfield

The fact that you even have a dream is all the evidence you need to achieve it.   Bishop TD Jakes and Brian Tracy

Commitment is the difference between people who ‘have potential’ and people who have results.   Demond Jackson (Me)

A house without books is like a room without windows. No man has a right to bring up his children without surrounding them with books, if he has the means to buy them.   Horace Mann

A man may die, nations may rise and fall, but an idea lives on.   John F. Kennedy

All I was doing was trying to get home from work.  Rosa Parks

As simple as it sounds, we all must try to be the best person we can: by making the best choices, by making the most of the talents we’ve been given.   Mary Lou Retton

I haven’t, in the 23 years that I have been in the uniformed services of the United States of America, ever violated an order – not one.   Oliver North

If GM had kept up with technology like the computer industry has, we would all be driving $25 cars that got 1000 MPG.   Bill Gates

Don’t force your kids into sports. I never was. To this day, my dad has never asked me to go play golf. I ask him. It’s the child’s desire to play that matters, not the parent’s desire to have the child play. Fun. Keep it fun.   Tiger Woods

Above all, film is a business… Independence is a really cool thing as you can be a bit more bold, and take a few more chances with what you do.   Mel Gibson

An idea is never given to you without you being given the power to make it reality. You must, nevertheless, suffer for it.   Richard Bach

Five guys on the court working together can achieve more than five talented individuals who come and go as individuals.   Kareem Abdul-Jabbar

Don’t wait for extraordinary opportunities. Seize common occasions and make them great. Weak men wait for opportunities; strong men make them.   Orison Sweet Marden

These are among my favorites.  Famous success quotes are like a friend encouraging you to continue when you want to give up.  Success quotes are like having your mentor or hero as your own personal cheerleader.  There are many great websites that spotlight the best success quotes of the last century.  When you visit, enjoy.

Keeping and memorizing quotes like the ones above can only have a positive impact on your life. I hope you were moved by these awesome quotes.  I know I am.

I would love to hear which quotes are special to you.  Please post your favorite quotes below.  Thanks for reading.

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Have you ever had a negative thought concerning your financial success?  Does it seem as if your income has reached a plateau?  If so, this article is sure to help you break through those barriers.  In this article I will show you how saying a simple abundance affirmation can remove those barriers, and cause you to achieve more. 

So what exactly is an abundance affirmation?  Simply a powerful goal related statement that you repeat over and over with feeling and conviction.  Let’s say you had a goal to earn $100,000 a year.  Some possible affirmations would be:

• I am happily earning over $100,000 this year
• I am enjoying the benefits of my $100,000 income
• I am gratefully and happily enjoying saving, investing and earning over $100,000

More abundance affirmations would be:

• I desire and deserve to earn $100,000
• I am living my dream life with my $100,000 income
• My $100,000 income allow me to spend the summer in Spain
• I am excited about my $100,000 income

In order to create your own, follow these simple steps:

Begin your affirmations with “I am”. Stating the words ‘I am’ actually retrains your brain to think and do things in a new way.

Make your affirmation positive.  Create a statement that focuses on what you want, not the things you want to avoid.

Use strong emotional adjectives.   Emotions such as: happy, excited, elated, joyful, healthy, passionate, grateful, confident, generous, and faithful.

State the affirmations in the past tense. Doing so will create a tension within your brain to want to close the gap between your current reality and your affirmed reality.

Make your affirmations short and sweet.  This is a statement that you will be repeating often and it needs to easily flow from the tongue.  “I am a happy, healthy millionaire.”

The statement need to be based on a current goal that you have.  We all either have, or should have financial goals.    Whatever your financial goal is, create an affirmation that coincides with the goal.

In order for your new affirmations to be effective, you need to repeat the statement often.  Become consumed with your goal until working to achieve your goal is automatic.  Abundance affirmations are a great way to keep yourself focused, and offers you the persistence to achieve your financial goals.

If you received value from this article, please post a comment.  Thanks for reading.  Abundance affirmations really work. 

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Quotations on success are one of the easiest ways to stay focused.  Collecting quotes from great men and women offers you an in demand method of refocusing and getting back on track.  The positive messages of others can offer the right adjustment at just the right time.  During very challenging times, I remember a quote by Les Brown.  Les said “When life knocks you down, always try to land on your back.  Because if you can look up, you can get up.”  

Although there are many websites that specialize in quotations, in this article I want to share with you the quotes that are near and dear to my heart.  Quotes like this one from Earl Nightingale.  Earl said : “All of us are self made-, but only the successful will admit it.”  I’ve always wanted to be a positive self made man, and this quote has helped me to never give up on myself.

Success quotes can at times mean the difference between a life filled with joy, happy and contribution verses a life of disappointment, struggle and hopelessness.  The great words of successful men and women need to deeply engrained in your heart. 

Do a Google search of those individuals whom you greatly respect and admire.  What do they have to say about love, fear, friendship, taking risk, planning, contribution or their key to success. 

Here are some of my favorite experts and what they had to say.

The fact that you even have a desire is evidence you have what it takes to achieve it. Bishop TD Jakes and Brian Tracy

You deserve to have your life exactly the way you want it.  Jack Canfield

I don’t care how bad it is or how bad it gets, I am going to make it.  Les Brown

Reality a merely an illusion, albeit a persistent one.  Albert Einstein

Most people give up just when they’re about to achieve success. They quit on the one yard line. They give up at the last minute of the game one foot from a winning touchdown. H. Ross Perot

If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you’ll achieve the same results.  Anthony Robbins

Be ashamed to die until you have won some victory for humanity.  Horace Mann

Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.  Og Mandino

Faith is taking the first step even when you don’t see the whole staircase.  Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

These are but a few of the quotes I have internalized and made them into my own.  That really is the key to power.  You simply take the best tips and ideas from your mentors and you live those until they become apart of you.

I invite you to start your own quotations on success list.  There are no rules.  When you read a book or article, if the author says something profound, write it down and find a way to implement that thought into your daily life.

I hope this article provided you with great ideas to use on your own.  If you have received value from this article, please feel free to leave a comment.  Thank you for your time and good luck.

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Building self confidence is the basis of any kind of positive achievement.  I don’t know what your particular situation is, but I believe there is hope for you.  Building your self confidence is like building a house.  This article will walk you through the building process of self confidence. 

First you start with the plans 

It is important to know how you would like for your confidence house to look when complete.  Getting a clear picture of how you would like to look in the future is important.  Would you like to take more action?  Would you like to be more confident when meeting new people or interacting with the opposite sex?  Would you like to be more assertive at work?  Knowing where you are going is the first step to arriving there.  

Build A Solid Foundation 

OK, so now we are clear about how we want our confidence house to look when complete.  The next step is to pour the foundation.  The easiest way I know to increase your confidence is by what is called auto suggestion.  Auto suggestions are statements that represents the things you would like to have happen in your life.  For example:

• I am calm and confident when meeting new people
• I am confident and exceeding expectations at work
• I am interesting and confident around the opposite sex 

Saying statements like those will help to create a new reality in your mind.  Where shyness and timidity once existed, confidence and a positive self image is now present.  

Building Your Walls 

Building your walls are giving yourself permission and motivation to succeed.   While you are repeating your foundational confidence building statements, look for every opportunity to test it out in real life.  Allow each positive experience to build upon the next.  Having confidence means you have the confidence to do the things you were once afraid to do.

The Outside Protection 

Things are good.  You have proven to yourself that this confidence building process works.  Now, it’s time to fortify that belief by investing your time and money into more confidence building products. 

In order to build self confidence, there really is a process that makes it easy.  Identify the things you would like to have in your life.  Create positive statements that you read aloud daily and assume to be true.  Make a positive mental note every time you act in a way that is congruent to your new confidence.  And finally, taking this new way of life serious by making an investment in time and money into a confidence building program.

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1.      Exercise- OK, I’ll admit. Maybe I should not have chosen exercise as my number one thing to get you in a better mood. And honestly I can’t explain why or how the act of just exercising can have such a positive effect on your attitude. I normally work out the first thing in the morning and again just before bed. It doesn’t matter what surprises life has dealt to me, exercise immediately changes my physical and emotional state.

2.      Affirmation- I love affirmations (I call them declarations). Affirmations, just in case you have never heard of them are powerful statements that you affirm concerning your present or future situations. Lets say you’re dealing with a job loss. You can affirm: I am happily doing the work that I most enjoy. If your partner just left you, you can affirm: I am happily sharing my life with someone who loves, honors and respects me.

3.      Visualization- What does your perfect future look like? Personally, when things are not moving quickly enough for me, I start to picture myself on stage with thousands in attendance. I picture travelling from city to city on my nationwide book signing tour. I picture myself being interviewed on Oprah and so on. Surprisingly, it doesn’t take me long to refocus and get into a crazy excited mood. You have to focus on the life you want when the life you have isn’t it.

4.      Learn Something New- Learning a new skill or hobby is a way to forget about whatever it is troubling you. Is there anything you would like to learn? When times are tough, we need to distract our minds from the pain.

5.      Teach Others What You Know- Sharing our knowledge and experience with others is a great way to change your state. A couple of weeks ago I was on the phone with a friend, Lionel, teaching him a simple money making strategy I have mastered online. I can’t say I was in a bad mood when we began. But by the end of the call, I felt great because I was able to share what I know with someone and Lionel now thinks I’m some kind of expert. Win-win for everyone.

6.      Remember Past Successes- In all of our lives, there are many things that we have done successfully. When hard times or bad news comes, we must remind ourselves of the challenges we have already overcome. We must keep ourselves focused on what’s positive so that our positive experiences can overpower all the negative that has come up against us.

7.      Watch/ Read/ Listen to Something Funny- Personally, when I start to feel bad or beat myself up, I will visit YouTube and watch Richard Pryors ‘Mafia’ skit. I absolutely cannot help but to experience a change of mind. I also like cartoons: Buggs Bunny, Daffy, The Flintstones. There are no right and wrongs. Whatever you can watch, read or listen to that will help, do it.

8.      Watch/ Read/ Listen to Something Inspirational- The people I keep in my inspirational arsenal include Les Brown, Earl Nightingale, T. Harv Eker, Mark Victor Hansen and Jack Canfield. I also enjoy Bishop TD Jakes and Joel Olsteen. The who really isn’t important as long as their words have the ability to produce within you a quick change of attitude. 

9.      Listen to great music- As I write this I am listening to Purple Rain by Prince. Every time I hear this song it soothes me. It gets me to take a positive outlook on everything going on in my life. What songs have that effect on you? Another thing I do is have my favorite inspirational songs on my mp3 player. I find that if I listen to then throughout the day, I seem to stay in a good mood. It works for me. Maybe it will work for you.

10. Give someone a compliment- This is by far one of the simplest things that can be done. For some reason, when we offer someone any kind of compliment, we feel good because they feel good. Each one of us loves to receive a compliment. It doesn’t matter if it’s that our hair looks nice or that our tie looks good. Receiving a compliment brightens our day. And giving a compliment feels just as good.

In this article, I wanted to offer simple yet practical ways to quickly get you in a better mood. I shared with you many of the things I personally do to quickly change my state. I hope the things I shared with you were helpful to you.

 I invite you to please visit my blog and leave a comment if this article has benefitted you in any way. Thank you in advance.

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Many people desire to have a better quality of life.  They see the achievements of others and would like to partake of the benefits they see.  They possess the desire for success yet lack the confidence to take action.  These well meaning individuals don’t realize how easy it is to develop new thinking, new habits, new actions which produce new results.  Confidence coaching is what I recommend for those who have desire but lack confidence to act.  Confidence in yourself and your goals can be obtained simply by having a self confidence coach.  Here are a couple of benefits of having a confidence coach. 

1.      A Confidence Coach Helps You Build Your Confidence

2.      A Confidence Coach Helps To Overcome Potential Obstacles

3.      A Confidence Coach Provides Motivation and Inspiration

4.      A Confidence Coach Holds You Accountable For Progress

5.      A Confidence Coach Pushes You To Become Your Personal Best

6.      A Confidence Coach Helps You Interact Better With Others

7.      A Confidence Coach Can Help You Increase Your Income

I stopped with seven.  The truth is there are a ton of useful benefits of confidence and high performance coaching.  A coach is there to challenge you to aspire to the greatness within you.  They help you to discover the goals that makes sense for you today.  They help you develop a doable plan of action.  They are happy when you are advancing and celebrate your victories with you. 

Not having a personal coach is costing you.  Coaching is needed to enter into a higher level in life.  Even the greats need coaching.  The great Tiger Woods.  Michael Jordan.  Kobe Bryant.  LeBron James.  All of the greats in this life didn’t just get there by talent and hard work.  Along with talent and hard work, you need a coach to in order to increase your game.

I want you to become more than you even think is possible right now.  I want you to think big and have the confidence to pursue and achieve any goal.  And it starts with getting a good coach.

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Improving self confidence is crucial in these uncertain times. Everything on the news spells doom and gloom. Companies are closing their doors.  Friends and family are losing their homes. Is there anything that can help you make a permanent and lasting change in your life? Yes! You need to improve your self confidence. As your confidence improves, you will see opportunities that you hadn’t noticed before. Those opportunities will help you create a more stable future for yourself.

Here are some tips you can use immediately to improve your self confidence:

• Write a powerful declarative statement and speak it 100-200 times every day
• Write down every success you’ve ever done. I’m not just talking about the big stuff. I mean any and everything that you can think of that has helped you to get to this point.
• Read the list of achievements every day
• Go out of your way to do something that takes you outside of your comfort zone- every day
• Buy a book like “Unstoppable”, “The Power of Positive Thinking”, or The Magic of Thinking Big
• Buy a DVD like Les Brown’s “Step Into Your Greatness” or a CD like Brian Tracy’s “Change Your Thinking Change Your Life”
• Attend a seminar or tele seminar on success, motivation and confidence

Any one of the things I recommended here can help you in improving self confidence within yourself quickly. You must be willing to take a chance to do something rather unconventional in order to receive your desired goals. You can strive and thrive in this not so great economy. It will require you to do, and think a little different. I know you can do it. Go forth in power and create whatever future you desire.  The sky is the limit.

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If you are not actively apart of some aspect of empowerment coaching, you are missing out. Many people think that they are doing alright without the help or assistance of an impartial third party. What a big mistake! In this article, it is my intent to explain clearly why not having a coach is destroying your entire future.

An empowerment coach can help you in many different ways. Here are but a few benefits of having a coach:

1.Coaching Makes You Focus On Your Goals

Goal setting and goal achievement s a big aspect of coaching. A coach is there to help you decide what’s most important to you RIGHT NOW. Next, you will narrow your goals down to the most important. Then your coach helps you to develop action steps that you can complete.

2.Your Coach Holds You Accountable For Your Success

Personally this is the most rewarding aspect of being a coach. Whether you meet with your coach once a week or once every two is not important. You know you can’t B.S. your coach. They will not be interested in any excuses, only progress. Many people lack that person in their lives that will offer that gentle nudge. The nudge to cut off the television, and the cell phone, and focus on the goal.

3.Your Coach Believes In Your Success

Forgive me, but this is a negative world we live in. Everyone’s negative, from your spouse, to your boss, your co workers to your child care providers. Most people never achieve their goals because they are bombarded with negativity. In a negative world, YOU HAD BETTER FIND A POSITIVE WHERE EVER YOU CAN. I’m serious. If your goals are important to you, you need your list of positives. Positive attitude, positive influences, positive actions, that’s how success is built. Your empowerment or success coach can help to turn your positive energy into results.

In conclusion, it is totally possible for you to achieve every dream in your heart. But you need to be honest and seek the assistance needed to take your life to another level. Above I’ve shared just a small list of why you need to pursue an empowerment or success coach today. Your coach will help you to focus on your goals. Your coach will hold you accountable for your success. Your coach will also believe in your goal achievement same as you.

If we will be honest with ourselves, we all ‘could be’ further along with our lives. In my experience, your likelihood of success increases exponentially by focus, hard work, and utilizing the assistance of a coach.

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Have you ever looked at someone who’s happy all the time and wonder why not you? Do you find yourself struggling to stay positive when mostly surrounded by negative? If so, you’re not alone. Many people suffer from negative thinking. Thinking negatively for any amount of time is robbing you of the ideal future that you desire. So what it something simple that you can do to go from negative to positive thinking? Positive thinking affirmations.

Positive thinking affirmations are the quickest way to change your mental state. A positive thinking affirmation is a positive, declarative statement that you repeat to yourself over and over. An example would be: I am happily earning over $100,000 a year. I realize everyone is dealing with difference challenges. The key is to create an affirmation that is opposite of the emotions you are currently experiencing.

Here are the major components of creating a positive affirmation:

Affirmations must be positive

The brain responds differently to a positive command rather than a negative one. I feel happy and great at 138 as opposed to I have got to get rid of this fat. Do you see the difference in how reading the two made you feel? The positive statement makes you feel empowered and the negative statement makes you feel as if you have tried and tried with no result.

Affirmations must be written to evoke emotion within you

What type of emotions would you like to experience instead of your current emotions? Do you want more happiness, peace of mind, love or money? What about feelings of freedom, independence and power? I am the happy owner of Happy Paws Dog Training School. Whatever your dream is, create a positive affirmation that coincides with it.

Writing and mastering the art of affirmations is not difficult if you have the right knowledge.  Positive thinking affirmations are absolutely essential to changing your state, your focus, and ultimately getting you to success.

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